The decision deck
One question at a time, in your own time.
302 guided decisions across 21 areas, from who keeps the dog to how college gets paid. Each one explains why it matters and what a court does if the two of you never settle it.
Holidays · 4 of 13
Tier AHow do winter school breaks alternate?
Daniel's answer shows the moment yours is in.
Winter break spans two holidays and travel. Naming the pattern now removes a yearly negotiation later.
Sample matter · Daniel and Maya Ellis · not real people
The bank
Statutory context
What happens if you never agree.
In supported states, each question carries the local default: what a court commonly does with this issue, the statute it comes from, and the date that version took effect. It is context, not a recommendation. Knowing the default is what makes a private agreement an informed one.
Choice answers stay hidden until you have both answered. Nobody answers to match.
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Weeknight schedule
Settled2-2-3 rotation, handoff after school.
2-2-3 rotation, handoff after school.
Who keeps the dogs
DifferentBiscuit and Pepper stay together, with me.
Dogs follow Iris on the schedule.
College savings
WaitingSample matter · Daniel and Maya Ellis · not real people
Daniel proposes
Alternate winter break yearly, Maya has even years.
Holidays · proposed Mar 09
Confirming settles this for both of you.
Sample matter · Daniel and Maya Ellis · not real people
Propose and confirm
A resolution needs both names on it.
One person proposes wording. The other confirms it, or declines with a note that says what would work instead. Only then does the item read as settled, for both of you, with both names and the date.
Editing a settled answer reopens it visibly. The activity record keeps the whole sequence, so there is never a question about who changed what.
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